Are You Highly Sensitive Or Do You Have Aspergers?

Uncategorized Dec 06, 2017

Ever had the feeling that you just don’t fit in? If you’re anything like a lot of us in the Vibrant Sensitive community, you’ve probably felt that way many times throughout your life.  


You probably experience life at a heightened state. Perhaps everyday stimulation rattles your soul more than the average person.


Maybe you find it easy to express yourself in writing, but when it comes to group interactions interactions, you feel lost. Or you’ve wondered why you need an hour of recovery time from the kind of day-to-day interactions that don’t seem to faze everyone else you know.


Maybe you’ve even wondered if there was something “wrong” with you, and you’ve started to seek out answers. But when you began Googling your symptoms and getting the results back, you got way more information than you bargained for.


According to the experts, your signs and symptoms point to everything from sensory processing disorder to ADHD....

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5 Tips to Nurture the Emotional Health of Your Child During Divorce

Uncategorized Nov 22, 2017

Most divorced parents have heard the horror stories about children who are so damaged by their parents’divorces that they never learn how to build healthy relationships of their own, have low self-esteem and no self confidence. It is one of the reasons people who clearly DO NOT belong together do everything they can to make it work: “We stayed together for the kids’ sake”.

Unfortunately, I can’t say that divorce DOESN’T affect children. A divorce affects the four pillars of security in a child’s life: people, place, routine and ritual. Because of this it is vital that we acknowledge this with awareness and understanding to minimize the effects of this transition period.

While I was never married to the father of my now almost 18 year old daughter, we separated when she was almost 2 years old. As I was very much a ‘daddy’s girl’  I could not imagine that my daughter would not have an involved and present father in her...

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Becoming Present in a Mind and World Full of Chaos

grounding Oct 16, 2017

Think about our world today. We have cell phones, Tweets, perpetual notifications and 24 hour news. There has never been this much constant stimuli at any point in history. Don’t forget that we are evolutionary beings; our bodies haven’t quite caught up to it all yet. And...will it ever?


With all of the constant information in the digital age, reconnecting with yourself has never been more important. It’s not just for Highly Sensitive People anymore--it’s for everyone.


The techniques I want to share with you are ‘grounding techniques’. When you say the word “grounding” to yourself, what does it feel like? Personally, it makes me feel more peaceful, connected, and present in my mind, body, and soul. But I can imagine that it might create some resistance if you’ve only heard of it in spiritual circles. I can tell you that times ARE changing and that grounding techniques are now being incorporated into the therapeutic and business...

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Beating Burnout and Depression

burnout depression Oct 11, 2017

I have created a poll a few times on the Highly Sensitive Parents group and simply asked: How many of you have dealt with Burnout, Depression or Both in your life? And I believe the majority has! 

Is this the fate of the Highly Sensitive?
I get it and have been there myself many times...the anxiety, stress, and existential dilemmas that Highly Sensitive and Gifted people often experience can be a little bit intense, for sure.

 

But no, in my world, High Sensitivity is not a curse. It’s actually a gift. When you’re Highly Sensitive, your experience of the world is rich, colorful, and deep.


But sometimes it also means heightened overwhelm, stress, and melancholy. It’s a two-edged sword, right?
So what exactly makes us Highly Sensitives more prone to feeling either overwhelmed and lost or underwhelmed and uninspired? And for that matter, what can you as an HSP do to keep the joy of your intense connection with the world while keeping the unpleasant side...

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The 3 Pillars of the Vibrant Sensitive Life and Why I Started a MOVEMENT

I’ve known for awhile that I wanted to create something amazing and life-changing for you. Something that would allow you to express yourself, own your truth, and live your life with passion.


Of course, don’t we all want that? Passion, purpose, truth. Everyone talks about them all the time. Of course it would be amazing to make those things a part of your everyday life, wouldn’t it?

And if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person like me, those things are not only important to you but actually indispensable.


That’s why I was called to start a MOVEMENT. A movement that would not only help you make those lofty promises of passion and purpose more real but also honor the special ways that Highly Sensitive People like us function in the world.


One of my greatest gifts as an empath as well, is that I truly fall in love with people. I see the beauty and the power in just about everyone I meet. While this is a beautiful thing, sometimes it can be a little bit...

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Is It Time To Redefine Mental Health?

Every time I, as a psychologist, have to talk about mental health, I literally cringe...There is so much to be said about 'normal' that I know struggle with what society has defined as success and health.

Fifteen years ago I had to do one of the most difficult things in my life: I had to press charges on my brother. 

He had been struggling with psychotic episodes for 6 years at that time and he had gone off medication when a social worker said to him that maybe he was not schizophrenic at all… because he was ‘doing SO well’.

He, of course ecstatic because of this news, dumped his meds and a year later I had a knife on my throat.

I stayed calm, trusted that he didn’t really want to hurt me, and managed to run to my car, lock myself in and call the police.

(Choking up already as Iam writing this. No matter how often I talk or write about this, it still hurts. I am talking about my little brother here. I love him deeply. This was breaking my heart to say...

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The #1 Self-Care Practice For Highly Sensitive People

Uncategorized Feb 01, 2017

Many highly sensitive people (HSP) walk around in a perpetual state of exhaustion. You have a nervous system that is wired differently, and a brain that seems to miss a filter and living in a society that feeds you with information 24/7.

By the end of the day, you are looking for that hole in the ground you wished you could crawl into and never come out again.

I’ve been on this self-care journey for a while now. Most of the time I don’t even like the term "self-care". It seems that we just forgot common sense and because of that, we need a word to affirm to ourselves and others that we are not just being selfish because we are choosing to do something just for us.

But that is just a side note. As for the self-care journey, meditation, yoga, spa days, walking in nature, relaxing music, and alone time are all great self-care practices that I’ve been experimenting with and implementing since my last burnout. 

But, if...

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Surviving The Holidays As A Highly Sensitive Person

Uncategorized Nov 30, 2016

Christmas 2011. Me in a car with two toddlers, stuck in traffic, crying my eyes out because I was so exhausted and I had to prepare Christmas dinner for 24 people.

Christmas 2012. I refused. People got mad and insulted. I was happy in my pj’s in front of the tv with my husband, kids and a glass of wine.

Christmas 2013. Back to doing Christmas dinner, clearly stating my needs, asking for help and planning well, well ahead. Had a decent time.

Christmas 2014. Small set back. Got suckered into a family holiday and I ended up taking care of 15 people for 10 days. People pleaser and all...

Christmas 2015. Back on track. Clear communication, clear planning and great friends…Awesome time!

Christmas 2016. Things are in motion, boundaries are clear. Actually looking forward to it!

Being Highly Sensitive around the holidays can be extremely overwhelming. Yes, we want to create magic for our loved ones but the only magic we crave is our bed. Or a spa, I...

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The Power of the Rant

A blog about ranting…like…what?

Yes, I’m going to rant today about ranting, because unlike many people out there, I don’t believe there is anything wrong with a ‘good-heartfelt-put–it-all-out there’ rant.

This rant is inspired by a few fellow coaches, who are not only colleagues, but also friends. One is a health coach, and she was ranting to me about ‘her ideal client’, which is just a term for ‘who do I want to work with and why’. And she said she felt shame because she was ranting, like she wasn’t supposed to feel so strongly about this subject. I was so suprised by this because, throughout her rant, I had gotten a clear picture of who she wanted to work with. Today, during a mastermind call, this came up again. Same subject. The ideal client and the rant. When I suggested to them to write a rant about that subject they were feeling so strongly about, they were like: wait…can I do that?

And...

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5 Tools to Release Stress NOW!

By the time I was 32 years old, I've had three burnouts, and stress had become my middle name.

The first time, I was 18 years old. No money, in high school, working at MacDonalds to pay the bills. When I couldn’t stop screaming in emotional pain, I realized something had to give.

The second time I was 29 years old, and after years of hard work building my practice and the aftermaths of a bad relationship, I couldn’t get out of bed. Focusing for more than 15 minutes wasn’t possible for me.

And the third and last time (because I swore this WOULD be the last time), I couldn’t even lift my arms.  32 years old and my brain was functioning, but my body gave out. Two sensitive babies only 14 months apart, breastfeeding on demand, and there was nothing left of me.

I recovered slowly. Mindfulness, energy work, yoga, intentional self-care, and time healed my body and mind. Stress stored in the body for too long WILL cause pain, adrenal fatigue,...

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